The title of this post may make a person question what the content of this writing entails. The more I've been praying the more God has been revealing to me that there are some things that happen in this world that go unnoticed and unpreached about in the church. The Elephant in the room if you may. There are so many things that the people in the church are thinking about, but are too afraid to talk about. The main affair that I feel God wanting me to touch on is sex. About a week ago in my prayer time and even in the motions of my daily life, I felt God beginning to speak to me about sex and what is it and what it means to Him. My first thought was, " Yeah God, I think I'm fully aware of what sex is." Little did I know I really had no clue. Sex in the church is something perverse, joked about, and something we all try to avoid. Sex in the world is reckless, fun, and something too good to keep to marriage. Yet sex to God is totally different than what the world and the church proclaim it to be. God calls sex within the confines of a marriage, holy, pure, and worship. To the church and to the world that just doesn't make sense. The thing that bothers me the most is not what the world calls sex, but what the church calls sex. Sex in the church has been made taboo. Something unspeakable. Why is it that as a whole the church has begun to identify the thing that God created as perverse and unpreachable to kids, teenagers, adults, and elders. In my three and a half years of being saved I've heard 6 messages about sex and purity. Two or three at Youth Camp, and three or four from searching them out, and hearing them all within the last 6 months. It is not like God is not wanting to talk about sex either, it has just become something we all choose to skip over and go to another message that is less convicting and more comfortable. I feel in my spirit that God is wanting to reclaim sex.
The first mention of sex is in Genesis 1:27,
"So God created mankind in his own image,in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
So here we see that God created man and woman and then sex. There's something particularly crazy about when you read this set of Scripture. God isn't saying, " If you want to multiply", He is saying, " Be fruitful and increase in numbers." The first command to man from God is to have sex. God is not Anti-sex, but God is Pro-sex for the purpose of multiplying within a marriage. God is the one that thought sex up. Man did not stumble upon it one day and God lowered His head in shame for what man just did, but rather He commanded his creation to have sex within the marriage bed. God created sex as a gift for mankind. Sex therefore is God's possession. The enemy has come and destroyed it and perverted it. It did not start out as this shameful, gross, and foreign thing. However, the church and the people of God have allowed the culture to have the first and last word as to what sex is. In our lust infested culture it dictates that sex is there for the pleasure of ourselves and has nothing to do with the partner. Culture says we can have sex with whoever, whenever, however, with a man, a woman, or ourselves. This error of avoiding sex has crept into the church and ultimately affected every Christian. There are Christians wounded by relationship, by premarital sex, by sexual addiction, by physical and emotional adultery. If sex was preached openly in churches I feel that there would be more of a freedom in Christians lives in this area rather than that once every few years altar call where people in the church finally have enough gumption to confess their sin.
I've heard prayers of parents crying out to God to enable them to raise their child up in the way of the Lord, but have yet to present an example of healthy and holy sex to their child. There is something that does not add up with that. The "Sex Talk" with a child puts the parents at a vulnerable uncomfortable position, but opens up a communication pathway for their future. The "sex talk" should not be just 30 minutes in 18 years, but an ongoing open conversation. I have a huge passion in my heart to see teenagers and children educated by God's sex. Too often I see teenagers go off and do whatever satisfies them at God's expense. Teenagers in this generation look for something that will satisfy their hunger for something more. I encounter it everyday, the stories of drunken nights and casual sexual encounters. I stand at school dances amazed at how half of the room is gyrating on eachother. I stand there feeling the sadness of God. The sadness that sex has been exploited and only a part of the Body of Christ is fighting to change culture while the rest are selfishly chasing after passions. I put the blame of this promiscuous culture on the church because we are the ones that are to influence and define the passions of our culture. When the only time sex is mention from the pulpit is through an awkward sex joke there is no wondering why the enemy took sex from our grips and used it for his leverage. The enemy took hold of something the church wasn't looking at through the eyes of God. It mourns me when I hear Youth Pastors and Pastors saying that masturbation is perfectly okay. My personal beliefs and convictions points completely towards the sin of masturbation. Scripture does not state whether it is or not, but I believe the Word is black and white and that for a man or woman to claim that self-pleasure is "Biblical" and "legal" is just an excuse for selfish motivations and unwillingness to be submissive to further in Holiness.
These errors have crept into the church and the ones who suffer are the teenagers and children in the church. I had a vivid image while in class one day. I saw two wrapped presents. The only different between these presents were that one of the gifts was mangled. The paper was torn, the box distorted, the gift inside essentially broken. The other box perfectly beautiful and the gift inside not harmed by the travel. Some people in the church are getting married and giving their spouse who presented a gift that is perfectly intact a present that is broken. Men and women are going to bed on their wedding night virgins, but exchanging gifts of broken love because of porn addiction or justified fooling around, but in their minds they had saved themselves for each other by the basis of the world rather than the standards of God. We don't have many leaders in the church who are willing to sit down and talk to teenagers. There are boys in the church who don't have Godly fathers to minister and set an example and accountability of sex to them, and a lack of Church men willing to pick up where another fell short. As well as young girls who are daily told that the only way to a man's heart is to have sex with them. So they go unknowing to what God is calling them and realize God has a holy man for them because there are women who have not told them their true value. To the Leaders and Men and Women of God who have sat down with students and presented the truth of sex to them I give them the greatest praise for doing the dirty work. I often wondered how Jesus would handle sex if He had a son. I believe Jesus would have been honest about the sacrifice and the years of battle it takes to get to the marriage bed, but offered accountability and kept a line of communication open for He and His son to be open and discuss about temptation and the right and wrong.
My biggest passion in life is to see a freedom in the teenage generation. I spend hours daydreaming and praying about preaching and writing about freedom from pornography, lust, anger, jealousy, alcohol, and drugs. I believe with the prayers and repentance of a generation God will break the chains of sin in a generation and unleash them to fulfill the Great Commission With a whole generation bound by sin and driven by sexual perversion an anointing and a power of God will dwindle resulting in a world that will have no hope.
"How can a young person stay on the path of purity?
By living according to your word."- Psalm 119:9
